The reason many people get hurt by “friends” is that we are too quick to give that position to people in our life. Most of what we call friendship is actually acquaintances with friend privileges/rights, conditional on what you do or don’t do. Someone who calls you “friend” as long as you’re doing something for them is not your friend. A true friend is someone whose heart is to “do” for you regardless of what you “do” for them. This should be mutual.
Jesus gives the true definition of a friend- “One who would lay down his life for you.” We all should use this as our “friend“ standard. This means not everyone fits into the “friend” place in your life. Being your friend is a privilege/honor not everyone deserves. Value yourself enough to keep a standard.
John 15: 13-15 LSB
Greater love has no one than this, that one lay down his life for his friends. You are My friends if you do what I command you. No longer do I call you slaves, for the slave does not know what his master is doing; but I have called you friends, for all things that I have heard from My Father I have made known to you.